Before I became a mom; before I even met my husband, I knew I wanted to be a hands on mom. I never envisioned being a stay at home mom, but maybe just having a part time job with flexible hours. After college, I worked some crazy long hours and spent a good chunk of time in traffic. I would wonder how families pulled this off, had quality with each other, could deal with the needs of home, and could take care of themselves. This is when I decided I wanted to just work part time. I knew in my 20’s.
Fast forward to today, I watch my kiddos, 4 yr old Chrissy and 6 yr old Jeremiah, and I’m glad that I made that decision so early on. My kids have spent their entire formative years with me. This isn’t to say that I’ve raised them in a cocoon, but it’s certainly been a safe space to blossom.
Children learn best in low stress and safe environments. I feel that we have provided that. And I have created a lifestyle that has allowed my kids to develop interests specific to them and I see myself reflected in them. I know, even without looking up the science behind it, that children are sponges. They literally mirror everything you do. This is why modeling good behaviors is clutch.
I am in a mom group and one post brought up using cuss words in front of the kids. I said that I don’t curse or use inappropriate language. I’ve seen too many instances where kids and teens are using words and terms that make me as an adult blush. And I’ve seen first hand how my kids say the “good stuff” from me, so I fall on the side of having my mirrors reflect the good stuff.
I was a personal trainer before becoming a stay at home mom. So fitness is near and dear to me. I also drink coffee everyday. I used to go to Starbucks with my first born. So, he has been my “drinking partner” for a while. I kinda laugh seeing my kids workout or drink my drinks or say phrases I say. I also smile as they show their personalities. They both have very distinct and strong tastes. The cool thing about my job as I see it is giving my kids the space and opportunity to grow. The fact that they take some of me is a bonus.