I have been a mom for 6 years and a wife for 7 years (in 2 days…12/17). How I operate as a mom and wife was built years before I met my husband. The healthy habits I built became sooo engrained, that they are literally as clutch as showering and brushing my teeth.
Habit creation takes the thinking out of tasks. Each morning before I do yoga, I sweep the carpet where I’ll put my mat. Each morning before I make a cup of coffee, I wash dishes. I have to have order in my space before embarking on a task. Otherwise the clutter or chaos throws off my energy.
I set goals and have action plans. I aim to get 2 miles in a day on my treadmill. It doesn’t matter if it’s running or walking, nor does it matter if it’s in one session. I just have to get my 2 miles in. Wednesdays this month are for deadlifting and squatting. I am focused on this bc I want to get stronger in my runs, so I need to continue to strengthen these muscles. I also aim for 3 yoga sessions a week. Knowing my to-do list helps to shape the rest of my week.
I set out my clothes (most times, but not every time), I keep my husband’s work schedule and our family schedule in the front of my brain, and I attempt to get most things done before my kids wake up. Yes, I can workout while the kids are awake, but their needs supersede mine, and I have to adjust for them. I typically know the workout I’ll do the night before. This way when I wake up it’s all about getting dressed, hydrating, and executing.
At this point in my life as a 40 year old mom and wife, my fitness goals are to be functional and healthy. I am not aiming for a particular size, weight, or 6 pack abs. I want to be able to fit into and look good in my current wardrobe, have the energy to chase and play with my kids, survive a zombie apocalypse, and be able to go to the bathroom alone when I’m old.
Having a firm grasp of my goals allows me to shape my programming. I don’t need to squat 150 lbs or workout for 2 hours a day to achieve this. I do not need to subsist on a strict diet without sweets or wine, I don’t count or restrict calories, I do NOT demonize food groups. I have wiggle room for my indulgences bc I know moderation and limits. What I do as a 40 yr old with kids is different than my life as a single, child free 30 yr old. And that’s the cool thing about this lifestyle, you make it work for YOU!! This is why comparative fitness should never be a thing. You should not be looking at someone else’s journey and using their milestones as your own. You can however take jewels and hints and create your own.
For any goals, you need to visualize where you want to go. The goal needs to be concrete. For example, I wanted to reduce my 1 mile run time to 10 min. Before the winter broke, I was working on my glutes and hamstrings. And once I started back running outside, I clocked my one mile speed, and kept working on my speed. I incorporated sprints, intervals, and long runs each week. I had a goal of running at least 50 miles per month. All of these things were concrete goals. If I would have said, “I just wanna be healthy”, I could have just gotten out walking a few times a week and added push-ups. But since I had measurable milestones, I pressed until I hit them.
Goals require a destination, then a map. It’s a lot easier to create the game plan once you figure out where you’re going. Namaste 🙏🏾