All throughout my pregnancy, I got so much UNSOLICITED advice and crazy looks. People were so scared that I was gonna hurt my child that they basically wanted me to just sit down for the better portion of the year. No matter if I showed them studies that said exercise is good for mama and baby. No matter if I told them my doctor is well aware of my lifestyle. No matter if there were absolutely no signs of distress with me or the baby, they’d still try and tell me what to do. Typically I would politely listen, try to let them know I was fine, and still do what I wanted. But inside I was saying, “did I ask for this advice?” And some days, there may have been some cuss words floating about my brain. (They would usually stay in my brain too.)
Yesterday though, the level of judgment about me and my lifestyle took a turn that I could never have imagined. And these people thoroughly pissed me off. They saw a video with me working out with my baby in his baby carrier, and decided they had enough info on me to make judgements on my parenting and my values. Here’s a snap shot…
When I tell you I was pissed, oooo weee, my pressha had sky rocketed. Like literally, how do you garner me being selfish, ignorant, and misguided from a 1 minute clip? These are the type of ppl that will not blink or say a word if a kid is eating McDonald’s or a highly processed Lunchable. They’ll defend a parents’ 2nd Ammendment right to teach their 10 yr old how to fire a gun. And of course they won’t say anything negative about a kid drinking a Big Gulp, bc nothing is more ‘Murican than drinking a shit ton of colored high fructose corn syrup. But let me work out with my baby, and I’m the selfish, ignorant one?
I am pretty sure that people mean well…well I could be giving them way too much credit. But sometimes if a person ain’t asking, they probably don’t want your advice.