No one should have a bigger buy-in to your goals than you do. And you should not always expect everyone to follow right along when you decide to do something. Your personal decisions and choices are just that PERSONAL. You are the one that reaps the rewards, and you should also deal with the consequences…(however the way our society goes, everyone seems to collectively have to clean up everyone else’s EFF ups. But that is beside the point.)
Anyways, anyone that knew me 3-4 years ago knows that I am a completely different person than I was back then. Everything about my life has completely changed…my career, my goals, my body, my outlook, my attitude, my diet…EVERYTHING. And it has been an awesome journey (and one that I am not finished with.) The thing is, I don’t go into anything that I do haphazardly. I read, I research, I listen to others who have more experience, and I use my personal experience as a compass and map. All of this has helped me to strengthen my resolve in my goals, (whatever they may be), and strengthen my armor when people try and puncture that resolve.
Just this past week, I was visiting with family. (I am usually the oddball at family gatherings.) I already know that I will not be able to eat unless I cook, bring something, or just eat ahead of time. No one usually worries about my diet when I visit…and that is OK, because my goals are mine alone. The only things that irritates me is when people start offering things to me that they know I won’t eat or making fun of me for my choices. “Here, you know you want this piece of meat.” “Hey, you want to go to this Brazillian steak house it has all kinds of blah, blah, blah.” (I start tuning ish out at that point.) It is one thing to not have the same goals as me, and it is another to be disrespectful. I know that the word “disrespectful” may seem kind of harsh, but it is what it is. When someone is happily and successfully on their journey, why try and make them change course? I typically hold my tongue, give a little smirk, and hold my ground.
I am pretty strong in my goals. Once I make a decision, it shall be done…ima make a way. Others might not be that strong yet if they are just starting with their journey…family and friends may be able to divert them. Just know that there will be potholes, booby traps, and obstacles in your path. And they may come in the form of your loved ones. Strengthen your armor and sharpen your swords by building a support system and becoming well versed in WHY you are doing what you doing…because the questions will come. And most importantly, stay strong. Once people know that you cannot be pulled off course, they will leave you alone…hopefully.