On relationships: My boyfriend always says, “You can’t have one person going to church, and the other person doing crack.” Translation: you can’t have 2 people with 2 completely different goals. The person with the healthier goals, will probably fall in line with the unhealthy partner….not the other way around.
Sometimes a person can be ambivalent towards their loved one’s goals, sometimes a person can actively sabotage their goals. You have to really be aware that NOT everyone will share in your journey…some may even HATE for you to hit your goals. Those are the people who you have to hold at arm’s length. Some people you may have to leave alone completely…especially if they don’t want you succeed. What kind of loved one is that anyways? I don’t see very much love in that!
I am currently running a 30 day vegan challenge for some of my Facebook friends. We are about 2 weeks in, so I wanted to gauge how everyone was doing. I expected to hear that some folks were missing their meat and/or cheese or that they missed going to their favorite restaurants, but NOT that someone was trying to give them meat! My challenger said, “My week has been horrible. My boyfriend thinks this is just a fad diet. He brings me the worst things to eat, steak tacos and milk shakes, that was just today. I don’t eat red meat and I don’t consume dairy, I feel like I’m being punked all the time. Not only is it disturbing that a person you think knows you would bring you junk but I think he wants to see me fail.” Reading that made me sad. But then I realized that many people had that very same struggle.
I asked my Facebook friends if they had ever had loved ones that tried to sabotage them, and so many people responded “yes.” But I know for a fact, that there are support groups out there. Sometimes you have to look beyond your friends and relatives. Many times your best support will come from your gym friends, a Facebook group, a mom from your child’s school, YOURSELF! You have to seek out those with your best interests at heart…those who celebrate your successes…those who you know you can call when you are at your low point AND they won’t offer you ice cream!! Those are the people you want in your life! And if nothing else, you can keep coming to my blog and getting support 🙂
(me and my extra supportive, down for whatever, workout buddy/boyfriend)